Surviving Monogamy: Tips From Your Gay Best Friend
Here’s some sound advice from our Gay BFF on how to keep things super spicy in your relationship – even if you’ve been together for a long time.
Congratulations! You did the impossible. You met a guy who’s into you and he fits all of your major criteria: his hands feel great on your shoulders, you love the smell of his hair even when he hasn’t washed it, and you can borrow his clothes because you both wear the same size jeans. Wait, those are my criteria.
Anyway, the point is, you’ve had the big conversation and have both agreed you are blissfully monogamous. Hooray!
But, what do you do to make sure settling down doesn’t mean settling into an emotional stupor?
Here’s my advice…
Go Out, Be Flirtful, And Multiply
Normally, flirting is reserved for the earliest moments of a relationship: those butterfly-inducing looks across a crowded bar, clever innuendo at a mutual friend’s game night, that first touch as you pretend to be interested in his wristwatch. But, once you become a pair, flirting loses its purpose and quickly goes the way of the payphone.
Don’t let this happen! Flirting is the hard candy of relationships – it’s quick, easy, and always yummy. So what if you know you’re going home with him, just like you have every night for the last three years? You should still give him a lusty glance from afar while at a co-workers boring bar-b-que, or give his butt a glancing pat while in a crowded elevator. Better yet, text him a picture you wouldn’t want posted on the internet (but give it a boring subject line like “What about these end tables?”). Keep the flirting up, be playful, and create little challenges and pranks for your guy – he’ll stay interested for years and years.