Summer Wedding Crisis: What To Do When Your Ex Attends
Therapist Rachel Sussman has 8 tips on how to handle the situation at a wedding.
Rachel Sussman, LSCW, is the founder of Sussman Counseling, which specializes in marriage and family counseling. You’ve probably seen her on The Today Show or The Early Show. Maybe you’ve read her advice in Cosmopolitan and The New York Times.
Rachel has recently written The Breakup Up Bible:A Smart Women’s Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce. As a licensed psychotherapist, she’s devised plans on how to handle yourself in any situation with your ex.
Wedding season is coming up. If you and your ex were very good friends with any of the brides in your life, there’s a chance that you’ll bump into him.
Here are some of Rachel’s expert tips for avoiding a painful run-in with your ex at a wedding include:
1. Discuss the tricky situation with the bride. Tell her that you do want to attend and request that you not be seated anywhere near your ex.
2. If you have been invited with a plus one, and you’re not dating anyone, consider bringing a friend (male or female, gay or straight) to the wedding to provide support.
3. If you are attending alone, find out in advance who else will be attending that you may know. Contact a few of those people, explain the situation to them, and then ask them to provide support.
4. Prepare yourself. Think through the event and what could possibly go wrong.
5. Always take the high road and behave with class.
6. Be careful with alcohol.
7. Don’t go out of your way to say hello, but if he seeks you out to greet you, respond gracefully. Keep it light and polite.
8. Make sure you look fabulous. Looking great is the very best revenge.
To learn more about Rachel, please visit her site.
Tell us: do you think you might bump into your ex at a wedding or an event this summer?
PJ Gach is Senior Editor: Style + Beauty at BettyConfidential.