Rebuttal: How Men View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules They Want Us to Follow)
Relationship expert Matt Titus gives us the lowdown on what guys think about casual hookups… and they are definitely not on the same page as us.
Last week, we ran a piece called, “How Women View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules We Want Men to Follow).” We asked our resident male relationship expert, Matt Titus, to read it and then write the guy’s perspective of casual hookups. Here’s what he had to say…
Although I’d love to believe there are more “Samantha Jones” types out there, it’s uncommon to find that kind of woman – one who just wants sex and nothing else. In my experience, women cannot separate sex from feelings.
But, for those of you who can really appreciate emotionless sex, you should know about a guy’s set of hookup rules before you jump into his bed:
1. Don’t expect anything.
Ladies, please don’t expect brunch the morning after a late-night hookup. We’re really hoping you go down on us first thing in the morning, get dressed and leave. No guy wants to feel obligated to have a conversation with his penetration partner over omelets. Most likely, we’re a bit hungover and our first meal of the day will be wings washed down with a beer at a local sports bar with our boys much later in the afternoon.
2. We’ll be honest, but don’t kid yourself.
As for full disclosure, us guys have no problem revealing that you are one of several women in our mix. If it bothers you that we’re currently f***ing someone else (with protection) later that week or hopefully even later that day, the “casual hookup” is probably not the right scenario for you. If you know that I’m dating someone, (i.e. taking a girl to dinner), please don’t have similar expectations. There are girls we date and girls we just hook up with. It’s pretty black and white. If you begin to wonder, “Why can’t I be taken out?” or “Why am I not good enough to date?” or even, “Why can’t I get fed before sex?”, then you probably should be looking for Relationship Guy instead. (We’re out there, too).