My Husband Wanted To See Me Have Sex With Other Men, Then Got Mad!

Ask Your Friend...Ask Your Shrink: A stressed woman wants to know what to do after she and her husband's experimental sex life ended with her falling in love with another man.
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My Husband Wanted To See Me Have Sex With Other Men, Then Got Mad When I Liked One!

Ask Your Friend…Ask Your Shrink: A stressed woman wants to know what to do after she and her husband’s experimental sex life ended with her falling in love with another man.

-Libby Keatinge and Dr. Morris Halperin

Libby Keatinge and Dr. Morris Halperin

Dear Libby and Dr. Halperin,

I can’t believe I am writing this, but here goes. My husband has been into seeing me with other men. He said he enjoyed seeing me enjoy myself, but the thing is I didn’t enjoy it. For 5 years I begged him to stop, but he would always get mad and say he needed variety and the excitement. He is straight and never got involved with the men. When I would tell him this was wrong, he would always say we got married young. I was 16 and he was the only man I was ever with and he wanted me to experience things. I won’t deny that during the act sometimes I did enjoy it, and then I would cry on the way home and feel guilty for this.

About 1 year ago he brought a man into the situation and from the first night we were connected. I felt something and he said he did too. At the time this man was in a bad marriage but that has ended since then. I feel like I love this man and he says he loves me. He is not ready for a relationship and he does not want to cause problems for my family, but the problem is my husband can sense my feelings and now he does not want me to see him anymore.  He still wants me with other men, just not him. I don’t know what to do. I am really mad and hurt because it seems he was fine putting me out there regardless for his thrills, but now he wants to say no.

My friend that I finally confided in says it is all a control thing and I should leave — that some things are dealbreakers. I just don’t know what to do. We have been married a long time and I do love him but I just don’t feel it anymore, and that really has nothing to do with the other man. It is the fact that I feel like my husband did not honor me and treasure the fact he was the only man I had ever been with. I know I need help, but I don’t really know what to do. Thank you for any insight you can give me.

-Stressed in the USA

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Libby says:

Dear Stressed,

I feel like you have practically answered this question yourself. You signed your letter “stressed” and you indicated that you never liked the “lifestyle” anyway. You are clearly uncomfortable and unhappy in your relationship – so why are you in it?

Life is too short. We need to surround ourselves with people who make us happy and feel good about ourselves. I think the fact that you fell for someone else is kind of the  secondary problem. Your heart was looking and open for someone else to care and respect it, because your husband didn’t respect your interests or preferences. It is clear that you two are not compatible: he wants to watch you have sex with others and have orgies, and you just don’t like it. On this one it is pretty clear to me that the only way you will find happiness is to rid yourself of someone who is not right for you.

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7 thoughts on “My Husband Wanted To See Me Have Sex With Other Men, Then Got Mad!

  1. Im surprised the “doctor” didnt mention that this is a form of abuse. I experienced this in my own marriage. My husband began asking for this and i gave in once. Immediatly after he insisted this man stay in our lives but when we were alone he would tell me he wanted to kill him. After it ended I refused to ever do it again. the marriage ended violently with him raping me. after the rape i was told by several of his friends he had attempted to pay them to come over and try to seduce me while he hid. This is a form of abuse and its one that is so hard to talk about most women never disclose it. but the more i looked into it as ive tried to heal the more i find it is common in abusive relationships. dont just get out get a restraining order. This will end badly if you do not take precautions as you leave.

  2. that's why they make porn for, there is nothing wrong with being with the only man you ever had sex with like its called PURE LOVE its so deep and pure but then so hot and nasty with the same man time after time, after awhile a man loses respect and love for you knowing just for his pleasure you screwed other men, men can be very funny creatures, sometimes we do things and not know what price we will be paying for it, lifes lessons

  3. I think this whole cuckold idea that a lot of guys have lately, is all about making their wives their personal porn stars and they are treated as objects to be shown to their friends and other men, only to return home to their husband thereby proving that although they are hot in bed, they always prefer to return to their husband. They call it a fetish but it is a mental illness. The weird part is that they often ask if you are man enough to watch your wife with another man. They redefine what manly and bisexual is, to fit their twisted sexual needs.

    They pretend that it is all about giving their wife more pleasure and yet if she does not do it like they want her too, they get very angry. They want to show off their wives to other men and then have those men know that as good as they think they are, the wife always returns home to her husband because he is superior to them. if the wife gets feelings for another man, it crushes the cuckold's entire fantasy. He is no longer playing the cuckold in control but is actually a cuckold whose wife prefers another man. They can get very angry. I have seen it. They redefine marriage and what being a man is. They even feel that they have stronger marriages than the rest of us to be able to live their lifestyle without getting divorced. Yet every couple into this type of thing that I knew in the last 40 years, got divorced because of it. How can you say that your marriage is strong when your wife does not feel you are sexually good enough for her or you feel that she needs to be a slut to please you. These guys are deluded and I blame porn. They read and watch carefully scripted cuckold stories and think it can all go according to script in real life.

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