Make 2011 Your Sexiest Year Yet! Day 25: Own Your Pleasure + Win a SEXY Prize!
Now we’re getting to the good stuff! Tips on how to take charge of your sexual pleasure … plus an awesome, ultra sexy giveaway!
-The Betty Editors
Welcome to Day 25 of your SEXIEST year ever! Click here to catch up on Day 24: Sexy Tips To Look Your Sexy Best!
For tips for women who want to own their own pleasure, we turned to Good Vibrations (www.goodvibes.com) Staff Sexologist Dr. Carol Queen (and by the way is that not the most awesome job title EVER?). Then, they offered us a prize pack to give away – HOLLA! Info on that is below, but first ….
DR. CAROL QUEEN SAYS
1. Wasn’t there an ’80s pop tune that went, “You can’t get what you want ‘til you know what you want?” Well, it’s true! There are a number of ways to learn what that might be, if you don’t already know: Explore your reactions to erotica, delve into some fun sex ed texts, talk to friends about what they like (but remember, your mileage may vary), and be truly honest with yourself about things that you’ve already experienced. Don’t just tell yourself you *should* enjoy or want to experience certain things — ask yourself what you actually *do* like the best in bed. TRY IT: Let your imagination run wild with this sexy anthology of the Best Women’s Erotica by Violet Blue or try Fairy Tale Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women.
2. Practice on your own! The number one tip sex therapists usually give women who aren’t reliably orgasmic is to learn their own responses during solo sex. With or without a vibrator or other toy, this is your lab for learning the fine points of what gets you going. Once you know, you can guide a partner through hints or direct spelling-it-out so you both know you’re on the right track. A great place to start with vibrators: the Turbo Glider waterproof vibe or the Mystic Mini rechargeable wand, which is Ecorotic® too!
3. Too shy to talk? Please try to get over that. Nothing is more vital, especially to an ongoing relationship, than the ability to communicate about sex and other topics that many people won’t speak up about. Besides, when you can ask for what you want and share details about your pleasure, you’re more likely to get the sex life that’s truly optimal for you. If it’s scary to start with your partner, chat amongst friends.
4. Get informed! If you’re curious about a sex style, or you want to be on your best game, there are lots of books, videos and classes so you can read up or watch and learn. Goodvibes.com carries the best of these (like The Little Bit Naughty Book of the Best Sex Ever and Tantric Sex for Busy Couples), but there might even be sex ed resources where you live.
5. Find support. Maybe it’ll be an online discussion group. Maybe you really know, deep down, you could use a session or two with a therapist to get you on the right track — this is especially true for those who’ve had negative experiences or grown up in a background that allowed shame to get in the way of sexual learning and pleasure. Maybe you’ll join a Tantra circle or start a salon to discuss erotic novels. Whatever you do, if you include other people, you’ll have constant reminders that you aren’t alone in desiring a happy sex life. In this new year, we all deserve pleasure!
And now – to get you in the mood … Good Vibrations has given us one super fun prize package to give away to one lucky Betty! It includes:
*One (1) Turbo Glider Waterproof Vibrator, plus…
*One (1) copy of Fairy Tale Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women, plus…
*One (1) Pleasure-Ed video series on amazing oral sex! Includes “Heads Up” and “Going Down!”
To win:
1. First, like BettyConfidential on Facebook (if you haven’t already!).
2. Then, leave a comment below and tell us:
-your Facebook first name or initials
-your #1 tip for feeling sexy!
To increase your chances of winning, you can follow us on Twitter and leave a comment on any love+sex article.
Good luck!
The winner will be notified via a private message to your BettyConfidential profile. Meet some of our past contest winners HERE! You can read BettyConfidential’s official giveaway rules here. This promotion will run from Tuesday January 25, 2011 7 a.m. EST to Tuesday February 2, 2011 5 p.m. EST.
Tune in tomorrow for our next great tip…and catch up on the previous tips here!
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My number 1 tip for feeling sexy is to be confident and smile!
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And exercise is the best way that I know of to feel sexy. Knowing that you take care of your body, makes you feel good and worth all of the positive attention that you can give yourself.
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My number one tip for feeling sexy be comfy–you’re not going to enjoy yourself unless you feel good–and there is nothing sexier then a woman in the throws of real passion. This sounds ugly and crazy but it’s worth a try I read that a woman is more likely to have an orgasm — if she leaves her socks on!
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My tip for feeling sexy is to smell good and look good and let my hair down. Makes him want me more!
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My number one tip is be confident! You come across as incredibly sexy when you are confident!
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Tip: be confindent in who you are
My Facebook name is Melissa D and my #1 tip for feeling sexy is: stay fit! Cardio especially will keep your endorphins flowing and make you feel happy and confident!
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Facebook name Virginia
have to agree with a couple others on confidence in yourself and smelling good
carrie says: my #1 tip is feeling good in your “own skin”!!!!
Hi! Susan is facebook name. #1 tip is, you goota love yourself first to feel sexy
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Tip: Be comfortable in your own skin. Confidence is the sexiest trait there is!
FB name: Malinda
#1 tip for feeling sexy: pushup bra with low-cut shirt
Facebook name Heather R
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My tip for feeling sexy is taking a hot bath, then strapping on my knee high black boots with the 4 inch heel and a nice “out fit” and walking into the kitchen or whatever room the hubby is in and catching him completely off guard. I like watching the reaction or him dropping things…
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#1 tip is mentally think about your together time before it happens and send love notes to one another building anticipation!!
A good way to feel sexy is to listen to some sensual music.
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Always smile. If you are smiling then everything and anything is possible.
FB name: Lynn
a good run and shaved legs!
Facebook name: Jennifer W.
Tip: Love yourself and love what you’re wearing.
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Tip silky legs and a mini skirt
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Tip: Be yourself!
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the best tip i used is love” you have to love yourself, and everything related to fell the sexies women on the universed”
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Tip: Shaving my legs, soft lotion and Sexting my Husband gets me going…
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My tip for feeling sexy is giving your self that comforting ‘pleasure’
and showing the world just how beautiful you truly are!
My facebook first name is Saundra.
My #1 tip for feeling sexy is pampering myself by primping and then wearing my hair down!
Facebook Name – Laura K
Tip – Remember everyone looks more attractive when they smile no matter what they’re wearing!
FB first name is Dora
Wearing sexy panties helps me feel sexy all the time!
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I love a long nice hot bath with alot of bubbles and music.
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FB name initials: Tim I. aka SalanderServant And wearing a favorite scent helps my sexy feeling shine!
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My Facebook initials are SN. I like to put on lip gloss to get me in the mood.
FB cheryl m–confidence is sexy! And a great dinner with a great wine is awfully wonderful too!
Facebook name: Laurie E. My tip is to always stay positive. There is something sexy about someone who is always looks on the bright side of things instead of complaining about everything.
Facbook name :Marianne D.
Tip: Be confident and passionate in everything that you do. Nothing is sexier than someone who seems to have it all yet still gives their all.
Facebook name: B rivera
tip: I buy the sexiest underware for me – it makes me feel sexy wearing it.
FAcebook name – Dawn R.
Tip – believing you are the most sexy woman and the room and enjoying it
Facebook name Tiffiny! Feeling sexy tip: make sure the hubby and you are happy
exercise – the best way to feel sexy!
Barbara F
smelling nice always helps me feel extra sexy.
Facebook name is Angela.
My #1 tip would be confidence. If you don’t have that, then some good friends to remind you of your confidence
Facebook Initials: Anna R
My number one tip for feeling sexy is wearing something you know you look good in and holding your head high, no matter what!
Trudina
Taking extra time to shave legs, use lotion and put on a sexy nightie.
Twitter. Trudinapb
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My FB name is Kristen F
My tip is also to be confident…and always stay a little mysterious….xxxooo
twbellamy
Be comfortable with who you are.
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Facebook name: Kathy C
My tip is to take a very hot shower and layer myself with my favorite body wash, lotion and perfume all over my body!
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My initials there are G.S.P
My number one tip for feeling sexy is to be confident in who you are.
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My Facebook name is Sugarbaby W … My #1 tip for feeling sexy is a romantic candlelit dinner and a satin and lace teddy to serve it in … then for dessert a hot bubble bath with vanilla scented candles 
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Tip for feeling sexy: Confidence and wearing heels
I am John R on facebook. I usually start reminding my lover how good she is while we are driving around on our night out. By the time we arrive home, we are both in the mood.
Lisa: curling my hair and putting on a dark, red lipstick.
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Tip: Be confident and a lacy black bra
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Tip: Weara lacy black bra…always works for me
Facebook name: Holly Robinson
Tip:care more about what you think than what others around you think and you will always be true to you. That’s as sexy as it comes
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be confident, confidence is sexy
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My Facebook name is Alyson Rebecca C.
My tip: I wear lacy sexy underwear under all my clothes, even sweats, because I always feel more confident and sexy.
Facebook name: chelle1141
My tip is to know and love yourself. If you can’t, then how can you expect someone else to? I know it’s something I’m still working on…
My Facebook name: Jana Cleveland
Candlelit bubble bath with a steamy novel in hand
FB name: Beth
Tip: Be confident … and smile!!
Tammy G
To feel sexy, you have to love yourself and your body. Confidence exudes sexiness and a hot little nightie doesn’t hurt, either.
LuckyTJG@cs.com
Defencl, or denise : A nice tan, sexy panties, a huge pillow and a hot man!
angel0256
My main tip is to believe I am sexy and to wear my sexiest underwear.
Sounds like fun. I’s like to win.
Initials MM
My tip for feeling sexy is confidence!
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I commented on several articles. They were all very interesting!
Facebook Angela M
My tip is to work out a little. It makes me feel extra confident that I put the effort forward to look better!
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to feel sexy i put on my slinky silky cami & panties & then use my deep seductive voice to call my man to come over
baby oil is sexy too
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sexy tip – confidence! or a lot of ab crunches!
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Facebook first name: Kimberly
To feel sexy.. wearing something sexy makes me feel confident.. that helps! but i do love my toys.. shhhh….
Commented on the Olivia Wilde And Husband Split article on your website.
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