Relationships

Why Dating Bigger Men is Better

Size does matter

-Emily Porter

Russell Crowe I never thought I'd date a "fat" guy. As an athlete (I swim several times a week), I used to only be attracted to svelte, trim men. I was so focused on finding a guy who worshiped his own body that I neglected to look for a guy who worshiped me.

So imagine my surprise when I began dating a chubby, cuddly guy. He didn't compete in triathlons, he never counted calories, he rarely wore fitted clothes. At first I grew nervous that we wouldn't work together. I worried that everywhere we went, people would judge us for being an inter-weight-cial couple.

But after a few weeks, my fears melted away. Instead of staring at his plump tummy, all I could see was how much he cared for me. Despite my initial prejudice against hefty hunks, I realized he pretty much rocked my world. Sometimes bigger is definitely better.

I'm not the only one jumping aboard the junk-in-the-trunk bandwagon.

The New York Times reports that several leading men have packed on pounds as of late. Russell Crowe, Jeff Daniels, John Travolta, Denzel Washington and Hugh Grant have all recently made full-figured film appearances. And Fox is planning a dating reality show called More to Love, which will feature overweight contestants.

Here are four reasons why dating a "Big & Tall" boy will give you the most bang for your buck.

1. He'll never criticize your weight or your food portions. If you want that extra slice of pizza or that extra scoop of ice cream, he's not going to raise an eyebrow.

2. You know how women's magazines always claim that men prefer women with a little meat on their bones, because their bodies feel better to the touch? Turns out the reverse is also true. Heavier men are softer and more squeezable than skinny studs.

3. His belly = your own personal, portable pillow.

4. Weighty guys enjoy life more than thin men. They never stress about diets or workouts - they instead spend their time tasting the pleasures of life. Like you!

How about you Bettys: Have you ever dated an overweight guy? Is bigger really better? Or are heavy men a turn-off?

Send us a photo of your big guy and we'll include it in our Bigger is Better roundup! E-mail it to editorial@bettyconfidential.com along with your name and your guy's name.

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#1. mk_ultra on 05/20/2009 - 7:16 am (EDT)

I wouldn't want to date someone that was unhealthy, but if he was just naturally a bit bigger, then I would be on board!

#2. jadeheart on 05/20/2009 - 11:26 pm (EDT)

I'm a slim woman who's an on again/off again gym member. I've dated men of all shapes and sizes, from the tall and very thin, to short and plump, to big and muscular and I have to say, as nice as a "hard body" is in bed....it's kinda sad when he leaves it at 4am EVERY morning to be at the gym, leaving me to curl up in the warm spot he so abruptly abandoned. It's a bit lonely. A man who's a little less concerned about his physique DOES have some advantages! Plus, I LOVE sharing dessert with my partner; a definite no-no for a gym rat.

#3. kitty on 05/21/2009 - 9:22 am (EDT)

This is hilarious. But what really bugs me is the double standard -- especially in Hollywood.

#4. Fern on 05/21/2009 - 10:16 am (EDT)

Yes, and it's not just a double standard in Hollywood, it's a double standard in real life!

#5. lotsowritin25 on 05/21/2009 - 12:55 pm (EDT)

i agree with mk_ultra - also, what about boys with a pot belly? does that count as "bigger"?

#6. Meggieliz8 on 05/21/2009 - 3:36 pm (EDT)

i think there is also a difference between men who are not overweight and men who obsess over their weight. my guy is naturally lean but doesn't give a crap about calorie counting, gyms, or how his guns look in this shirt...but i guess that is just luck of the gene draw :)

#7. star on 05/21/2009 - 10:19 pm (EDT)

My spouse is now a big guy and has been more or less since I met him, but he still sees himself as the skinny kid he was in high school--at least to a certain extent. He will comment on me having an extra scoop of ice cream or what he might consider a portion size a little to big for me. He will make comments about my belly (that carried his 2 kids--one of which was the largest one in the nursery). He is sometimes into walking, but it is his other activities that keep him rather self focused and not at all focused on me. So size does not necessarily matter. I think getting to know the guy and finding the one who cherishes you is the one to look for--which is the point of the story isn't it?

#8. jshadlow010 on 05/22/2009 - 2:38 pm (EDT)

I actually prefer fatter guys. I'm a chubby chaser. I'm pretty overweight too, and have always been since I was like 2. I feel more comfortable with a larger guy, just because I don't feel like I'm dominating them.
I've also noticed that the really fit guys I've dated were jerks to me all the time. For instance, this one guy grabbed my gut and was like "blub blub blub" (that was the end of our relationship >_>)
But the big guy I'm with now is always really sweet. Hes much warmer and always wants to cuddle (and hes a much nicer pillow than skinny boys)

The only down side to a fat boy is that I watched my father die when I was 15 of a heart attack. I fear that if I become committed to a larger man, I will live through what my mom lived through. I don't want my man to die at age 45.

#9. Carolyn88 on 05/22/2009 - 4:15 pm (EDT)

I like big guys! I have one ;)

#10. mfe on 05/22/2009 - 8:54 pm (EDT)

Just don't get too comfy where you get fat too!

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