What Men Really Want: Everything You Need to Know About Oral Sex
Real guys open up about their biggest turn-ons and turn-offs.
Like most women, I have my insecurities when it comes to sex. However, none of them have ever had much to do with whether or not I was a good lover… and especially, whether or not I give good head. Still, I’ve had my fair share of experiences when I’ve wondered if the person I’m in bed with might have been disappointed.
I was recently talking with my boyfriend about oral sex, and it ended up leading to an enlightening discussion about this subject with him and a few of his closest male friends. So as not to confuse things (i.e., there’s more than one “John” in my life), and in an effort to be economical, I’m not going to attach names to the following comments; I simply want to pass along the info I gathered in an effort to help all of us who have occasionally left our partners wanting more (or, perhaps, less).
Not so surprisingly, when I asked if giving head is important to guys, the response was: “Besides world peace, what could be more important?!” Turns out that the men I spoke with also prefer when we get right down to business: “I think there’s something about a woman being direct that makes me feel more comfortable,” said one. “It shows a lack of inhibition which makes me feel more at ease. You have to remember, there’s a certain element of self-consciousness involved in receiving oral sex; and if I’m not mistaken, women experience this too.” (Agreed!).
The guys also mentioned how most women seem to suffer from the misconception that the penis is similar to the vagina, in terms of sensitivity. OK, I can’t really disagree here, either, and it’s completely preposterous! When you consider the size and strength of a man’s hand, grip and arm when masturbating, you can imagine they’re a lot firmer with themselves than we are.
“A lot of stuff women do – the light kissing, the soft touching with the tip of the tongue – we can’t even feel that stuff. I think maybe it feels good to them, but it just doesn’t deliver enough pressure to register a sensation for us,” explains one guy. OK, got it. But are there any limits? “Nothing you do down there is going to hurt me – except using your teeth!”