I'm a Skinny Bitch - and Proud of It
How can one magazine photo stir up so much body hate?


Updated on August 31, 2009, 4:08 pm ET
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When Glamour printed a photo of nearly naked Lizzi Miller, highlighting her belly fat and stretch marks, I braced myself. Not because of the pic - Lizzi's empirically beautiful and magazines should show women of all shapes and sizes - but I knew an onslaught was coming.

The photo sparked a storm of media and impassioned comments from readers. Sure enough, most of those comments heaped praise on "real women" and vitriol on thin (presumably "fake") women.

Well guess what? I'm a skinny bitch - and proud of it. I'm 5'4" tall, 100 pounds, with toned arms and defined abs. But it's not like any of those things just appeared on my pillow from the skinny fairy. I work hard for my body, and I'm no more a "fake" woman than you are.

Man, am I tired of either having to hide my thinness or be hated for it. It reminds me of a scene from Mean Girls, where newcomer Cady fumbles her way through the confusing jungle of popular girl politics:

Regina: But you're, like, really pretty.
Cady: Thank you.
Regina: So you agree?
Cady: What?
Regina: You think you're really pretty?

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

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kisskiss
#1. kisskiss on 09/01/2009 - 9:53 am (EDT)
Great article! I agree, there's a lot of revere discrimination out there that people think there's nothing wrong with.
hope_xo
#2. hope_xo on 09/01/2009 - 10:05 am (EDT)
Good for you! :)

I wish I was a skinny bitch... damn
kmtkbest
#3. kmtkbest on 09/01/2009 - 10:26 am (EDT)
Very good article. I wish I could feel comfortable in my own skin and maybe someday I will. The way you feel about yourself really affects your day to day life. I've met women who are very plus sized who are happy as clams in their skin and okay with the fact that they are "big girls". I also have some very thin friends who are very uncomfortable with how they look because of the way people view them.

I only wish that magazines would feature a variety of body types so that we can all feel that we're okay the way we are or at least not be the driving force behind trying to be something else.
Fern
#4. Fern on 09/01/2009 - 10:34 am (EDT)
I agree, Kmtkbest, so much of life is just feeling good and selling what you've got! And magazines should show all variety of body types
CleoRose
#5. CleoRose on 09/01/2009 - 5:11 pm (EDT)
I'm a skinny bitch too! I'm sick of reading magazines that go on about how great and healthy a curvy woman looks, and then lay into celebs who are size 6 or smaller for being 'unhealthy' and telling them to eat more. I've read articles out and out calling skinny women liars if they claim to eat fast food. Urgh.
girlfriend_2
#6. girlfriend_2 on 09/01/2009 - 8:01 pm (EDT)
Well guess what? Im a fat bitch ,and proud of it. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Love what God gave you. All types of men hit of me. just today, a middle aged man, hit on me at a store.
kitty
#7. kitty on 09/02/2009 - 8:26 am (EDT)
I wish the skinny fairy would visit me!

What -- you mean I have to work for a great body? Damn!
MissPinkSlip
#8. MissPinkSlip on 09/02/2009 - 11:22 am (EDT)
Moderation is the spice of life. I'm an eating disorder survivor, a size 4/6 and am very happy with regular exercise and a french fry every now and then. Depriving yourself all the time isn't fun--and usually not fun to hang out with, either.
avesidoj
#9. avesidoj on 09/02/2009 - 6:39 pm (EDT)
Wow I've so often thought about this side of this discussion... I'm "morbidly obese" according to those cruel BMI standards (190 lbs) and so I do enjoy reading articles about how curviness is ok...but I absolutely hate when the skinny-attacks start, when people start claiming that the only way to be thin is to starve yourself to extreme extremes or something like that... saw a comment recently on some article about curvy women that said having sex with a woman with a supermodel look was like "!@#$%ing a hanger"... I can see absolutely NO DIFFERENCE between that comment than saying that having sex with a fat woman is like !@#$%ing a whale... its absolutely as hurtful :( Well, I guess that when its of one's own accord that a person is a size 0 its not as bad as insulting a fat person that simply cant control his or her body weight, but a close friend of mine is one of those girls who simply does not gain weight no matter what she does or eats, sticking out bones and all that, she was endlessly made fun of as a child (shes also very tall) and for her to read comments like that is just horrible..

Anyways, I'm rambling.. and I guess thats just the way the world turns, people are mean...but I encourage people to thoroughly read over what they post on the internet, whether their identities are hidden or not...
Fern
#10. Fern on 09/03/2009 - 11:32 am (EDT)
did you see Glamour is going to run more photos of "real" women in its next issue? Maybe things will change

 


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