When it comes to hitting on women, most guys consider themselves skilled professionals. As a result, most of us are used to sitting back and waiting for whatever guy is brave enough to come over and try his luck. The only problem with this scenario is that you’re allowing someone else to decide who you do and don’t potentially connect with. Well, ladies, it’s time to take matters into your own hands for a change. See a tall dark stranger on the opposite side of the room you think you might like to talk to? What have you got to lose? The best thing about hitting on a stranger is that if you mess up, you never have to see him again. The worst thing about hitting on a stranger is that if you mess up, you never get to see him again. Here’s how to make the first move and get the reaction you’re looking for.

Approach alone. If you’re going to hit on a guy, you have to be willing to do it alone. This isn’t a "me and my friends are going to go to the bathroom together" type of occasion. If you bring friends along, a guy will get confused about who wants him: Is it you, or the girl standing next to you? Making the initial approach alone also shows confidence and independence, which any guy will tell you are the two hottest accessories any girl can show off.

Buy him a drink. If you’re at a bar, ask him what he’s drinking, and then order him one. Guys buy girls drink all the time, so they welcome the chance to be treated for once. Plus, it shows you’re not another “typical girl” who just expects the guy to pay all the time.

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Insult him. This is a trick that guys use when they try to make a pass at girls who are out of their league. Surprise, surprise: It works on guys too! Don’t say anything too mean, but feel free to tease him about something he’s wearing, drinking, buying or saying. Just make sure to give him a wink and/or a flirty smile as you’re doing it to let him know you’re only having fun.

Ask him a question. Yes, this one is basic, but it works. You can strike up a conversation with a guy anywhere just by asking him a question. If you’re in a gym, ask him how to use a piece of equipment. If you’re on a subway, ask him what he’s reading or how he likes his iPhone. If you’re in line at a supermarket ask him what exactly he plans to cook with the peanut butter and hot dogs in his basket.