Can You Trust Your Guy to Have Female Friends?

Where do you draw the line? Is it possible your man can have platonic friendships with other women?
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Can You Trust Your Guy to Have Female Friends?

Where do you draw the line? Is it possible your man can have platonic friendships with other women?

-Emily Southwood

A man and a woman chatting

One Friday evening a few weeks back I found myself camped on the couch with an unwelcome summer bout of strep throat. The huz had been more than a superstar over the previous week, answering every call for cranberry juice and SpaghettiO’s and carting me, feverish and grumpy, to the doctor. Sensing his need to break out of sickbay and avoid another night of old romantic comedies, I said, “Any plans tonight? You should go out. I realize I’m about as fun as my high school principal.”

“Yeah,” he said. “I was thinking of heading out for a drink with a friend.”

“Cool. Who are going out with?”

“I’ve been texting with Katarina.”

“Katarina?” I croaked. “Who’s that?”

“You remember?” he said. “I told you about her. We worked together on that short film.”

“Oh. No, I don’t remember. Have I met her?”

“I don’t think so.”

“Well, what does she look like?”

“She’s a blond surfer chick — looks a bit like Kate Bosworth …”

“Yeah, no, I don’t remember you mentioning her,” I said.

He sat texting on the couch as I attempted to focus all my energy on Meg Ryan’s girlish glee in French Kiss. But Meg’s tragic wardrobe was distracting and I felt a touch miffed. Had subjection to too many rom-coms made my man want to date? Or had 40 hours of atrophy on the couch robbed me of all perspective? He is your husband — I told myself — he is allowed to have female friends. But is he allowed to have hot, mysterious friends I don’t know? I needed to get a grip but despite my intentions to give him the benefit, a Friday night Margarita with this new model-esque amiga, sounded downright date-esque. I decided to hold my tongue, took my thoughts to the bedroom and called a girlfriend.


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0 thoughts on “Can You Trust Your Guy to Have Female Friends?

  1. hope_xo says:

    Always turn the tables and see what the other side would be like. Idk this is always a hard one, especially if you don’t know the girl. I tend to give the benefit of the doubt, but that has bitten me in the ass before.

  2. SoniasAccessories says:

    Its can you trust the female friend to be just that A FRIEND…my answer is NOOOO!

    I had a female friend that was both of our friends and one day she took it too far, my husband was mad at (her) for over stepping her area..I was pissed off at her. As for him having a female friend and I dont know her..this wont happen. Peace and Love,Sonia

  3. YULiANA says:

    i D0NT THiNk A NEitHER THE MAN or GiRl SH0UlD BE MAKiN NEW FRiENdS. i HAD THE SiTUATi0N C0ME UP 0NCE WHERE MY B0YFRieND DECiDED T0 ECHANGE # WitH S0ME0NE HEd SEEN AR0UND but DidNT kN0W PERS0NAlly. AFTER A WHilE HE ADMiTED THAT HE Did FiND HER ATTRACTiVE and DidNT TEll ME AB0UT MEETiNG HER BECAUSE HE kNEW i W0UlD GET MAD.. hellooooo D0NT D0 iT THEN!! i AM STill WitH HiM but l0ST TRUST BECAUSE 0F iT. S0 N0 NEW FRiENDs 0F THE 0PP0SiTE SEX!

  4. shelby says:

    I think it is fine to make new friends, even individually. But before you go on “dates” you should have that person meet your significant other that way the new friend knows the situation and your other has met them and is comfortable with it. but no passing out numbers to random people and not telling your other half!! that is shady… get their number, discuss with other half and then see if you have a friend.

  5. PaigeKittles says:

    It differs from one couple to another. Depends on you, the guy, the other girl, and your specific relationship issues between yourself and your significant other. Most importantly, there can’t be any underlying insecurities within either of you else it’s a no-go. You should know realistically that he can be trusted 100% and you have no fear of him faltering. My hubby and I have a deep trust and have no problems with the other having friends of the opposite sex… but at the same time, we are also very careful to NEVER put ourselves in a position to even be tempted in that way. I also understand that our relationship is a rarity and if he had insecurities about it, I would lose every guys # that I know in a heartbeat and he would undoubted do the same for me. No friendship is worth going down even a notch on the trustmeter.

  6. njoi says:

    So, I can’t blieve women who don’t mind their man having ‘girlfriends’ and vice verse, I mean if they r friends of the both of u-then ok. That person will never c either of us alone. But, I don’t want another girl calling my man talking crap about her relationship etc. getting closer, crying on his shoulder-bull! It’s always a danger of things going 2 far with the opposite of sex.

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