8 Reasons to Go Out Tonight!
Getting out of the house isnât just good for your social life, it can also make you a happier, more exciting person â and you never know who you might meet!
-Faye Brennan

Itâs Friday night â so why are you sitting on your couch in your slouchy sweats? Yes, it may be cold outside and you may have just wrapped up the workweek from hell, but those are lame excuses for having a boring night in â and they could even be the reason youâre still single.
You may think itâs not a big deal if you stay home, but itâs actually taking a toll on your love life. As Amy Spencer, author of Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match (Running Press) explains, tonight is your chance to go out and have a good time, which will make you a happier and more interesting person. And this is what will bring you even closer to finding your âhalf-orange,â that perfect person who complements you in life and love. âQuite simply, the more positively âyouâ and happy you are, the more likely you are to naturally draw the right person straight to you,â she says.
So what are you waiting for? Start 2010 off on the right note: ditch those sweats for a sexy dress, call up your girls, and get your booty out the door! Here are 8 reasons why youâre making the right choice:
1. Youâll feel alive!
Weâre all for zoning out to reality TV from time to time, but the sad truth is that youâre watching other people live their lives while yours is spent on the couch. Enough already! According to Spencer, this habit is doing nothing for your brain, your heart, your body or your spirit. âActually getting up and going out and seeing what the world has to offer will make you feel far more alive,â she says.
2. Youâll learn something.
âGoing outâ doesnât always have to mean going to a bar. Mix it up and try something new, like taking a sushi-making class, going to a wine-tasting party or exploring a new part of town. As Spencer explains, âYouâll learn something new every day if you put yourself in a position to do so, and these experiences will make you a smarter, wiser, warmer and more knowledgeable person.â
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3. Youâll make new connections.
For single girls, going out is usually all about meeting a new guy, but why not try a different strategy? Open yourself up to meeting all sorts of new people, like an interesting potential new female friend or an older, wiser gentleman. âMaybe you wonât date that person,â says Spencer, âbut youâll gain something from them, maybe learn something about yourself, and who knows, maybe youâll find out that they have a cute son, brother or friend they want to set you up with.â


























"Quite simply, the more positively âyouâ and happy you are, the more likely you are to naturally draw the right person straight to you"
Okay, I can accept that. But I cannot agree with the idea that going out will make me more happy and more "me". I can assure you that I do NOT feel more alive after an evening spent mingling in a crowded bar/restaurant/social activity. The mere suggestion makes me tired.
If the idea is to become our best and most authentic self, then we need to acknowledge that not all of us like the same things. Not all of us at home Friday night are (as is implied in this article) simply too lazy to get off the couch.
I need quiet alone time to recharge. Lovely for Sabina (comment #4) that she can be all social and happy the day after a night out; in the same situation I'm strung out and cranky.
Have fun on your nights out, ladies. Just don't insist that you know what's best for everyone...and don't assume that your less-social sisters want to join you.