7 Things To Consider Before Moving In Together
There are a lot of things to consider before cohabitating or combining finances.
Moving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple when you choose to take that step. Here are seven things you should consider before entwining yourselves financially as well as emotionally.
1. What is your definition of commitment?
You and your partner define your relationship. Know what your relationship means to each of you, to avoid repeating past mistakes, getting stuck in uncomfortable roles, or fighting about what your commitment is.Talk about what you mean by relationship, commitment, love, and faithfulness. You’ll be amazed by what you learn.
2. Have you discussed finances?
Money is a big generator of problems, arguments, and resentment in serious relationships. Don’t assume money should be pooled. For many couples, separating the money makes things run smoother; you don’t wind up struggling for control of who pays or whose income determines your lifestyle. Different financial habits (one likes to save, the other spends more, or doesn’t keep track) can generate fights. Whether you split costs evenly or on a percentage basis, learn to talk about money in a businesslike manner.
3. What about household responsibilities?
Different decorating styles, neatness, and organization levels can cause arguments, and so can household chores. Different tastes may require creativity and negotiation to decorate a shared home that is comfortable. Negotiate before moving into your partner’s established home. You may have trouble feeling as if you “belong” in a home previously established by your partner, unless you reorganizing and redecorating it together.
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