You are not alone-holiday break-ups are happening all over the place! Many people choose to end a relationship that they feel is not working out before going through the holidays and dealing with the added stress of travel and seeing family. The candy and cheery tunes can’t make it any easier if you are going through a tough time. We spoke to real women who went through difficult splits and rounded up the 5 top ways to get through a holiday break-up.

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1. Pamper Yourself: You deserve a little extra during this tough time. Spoil yourself with little things that make you happy: get a massage, take a weekend trip with your girlfriends, go to the movies (NOT a romantic comedy!), eat some food you love that is not on your diet, and don’t be hard on yourself if you have a bubble bath instead of a workout.

2. Hit the Salon: Getting your hair done, a facial, or getting your nails done not only makes you feel like a pampered princess, but makes you look extra attractive when you decided to start venturing out to meet new guys! “The nail salon was the only thing that got me through my breakup. Sorry to say, but that’s what did it for me! Chatting with the ladies and coming out feeling beautiful did volumes to lift my mood!” Jennifer from New York shares.