Just Another Manic Mommy

Afraid to Tell My Husband!

Dear Manic Mommy: I just found out that I am pregnant and am having a hard time trying to think of a way to tell my husband. We weren't planning on becoming pregnant so soon and I am not sure how ready we are to be parents. We don't believe in abortion and after carrying a child for nine months I couldn't give it up for adoption. We will make due. I just don't know a subtle way to tell him.

Manic Mommy: First of all, I'm thrilled to know that you're not planning on aborting your baby or giving him or her up for adoption just because you are unprepared at the moment to become parents. But your question does concern me a little because wouldn't your husband know that there's a possibility you could become pregnant? He was there, yes?

Did he know there was no birth control plan in place? I know you're not looking for a lecture, and I'm not one to lecture, so I won't!

Since you're looking for a subtle way to share the news with your husband, why don't you tell him at a quiet time in the evening, perhaps when you are both settled into bed. You can start by saying, "Honey, remember that night I told you it was OK if you didn't wear a condom?" ... That is pretty subtle and maybe he'll get the hint without you having to blurt out "I'm pregnant!"

Then you can ease into the conversation slowly and quietly. And hopefully, happily and with some excitement of what the future will bring with the joys of a baby! Wishing you the best of luck with your family!